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“Freedom is Beautiful, and so am I!”

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“Freedom is Beautiful, and so am I!”

As I wrote this sentence I found a slight hesitation … Is it wrong to announce, “I am beautiful?”

One of my favorite quotes of all time by Marianne Williamson: “We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?… Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine… And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.”

We have to train ourselves to see ourselves differently. And know it’s more than ok to look, feel & be the best version of ourselves! It’s actually our birthright!

It might not be easy at first, but my boy Wayne Dwyer breaks it down like this, “by choosing to see beauty in the hardest of places even where you think you can’t see beauty, it will appear. If we focus on what’s ugly, we attract more ugliness into our thoughts, then into our emotions, and ultimately into our lives.”

If you truly want to be beautiful, it has to start with the way you think. Start to see appreciation for your body, your health, and all of your functions and you will start to see the physical transformations. Beauty, just like shining, is an inside job. You have to own it!

 

3 Action Steps To Put Into Practice Today:

Step 1: Become aware of your dominant thoughts, discover where & what they are consistently focused on? Complaints and put downs? or Uplifts and gratitude?

Step 2: Get curious who’s voices are those really? Somewhere in your head you hear your mom, or your brothers/sisters, ex’s or peers… someone who threw you down and told you you’re not good enough.

Step 3. Find solutions: replacement thoughts, gratitude, affirmations, intentions…
Start today, baby steps.. just become aware of your thoughts. Notice how you speak to yourself. If you find yourself saying something like… “oh, that looks good and then replacing it with yea, but you don’t need it fatty” Find a replacement thought with “I can eat whatever I want but I choose to feel good, therefore I choose to eat something that will ultimately make me feel energized and light when I finish.”

 

*If you seek true change, you must start with the way you think about yourself. Once we change the way we think about ourselves, food and exercise, and start to focus more on how we can feel our best is when this happens…
Transformation of the Mind = Transformation of the BODY = FREEDOM

*Give this 21 days! I guarantee you’ll start to see some pretty amazing things happen in your life. But you have to do it! You probably know this stuff already but the true question is, are you applying it to your life? Set reminders around the house (index cards on your fridge), in your phone, tell only those around you who love and support you what you’re doing and get them involved as well.

Stay Connected and let me know how it goes!

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And Remember to Look, Feel & Be Your BEST Today!

TanyaSilva.com

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Start “this” on Monday!

Hey there!
Recently I made a decision that I wanted to start adding more cardio to my weekly workout regimen, (rollerblading, dancing more, walking..ect). I chose to do this because it makes my body feel good and my body responds well to it.

When the time came for me to get moving, I start thinking of every excuse as to what I had to do instead. “I’m too busy,” “I don’t have enough time,” “I’m too tired”… then I stopped and got real with myself.  Instead of beating myself up, I got curious. Why am I procrastinating my workouts?

In conclusion, it wasn’t that I didn’t have enough time, or too much to do, or that I didn’t have enough energy (which were all legit “excuses”), it came down to that fact that I wasn’t valuing myself.  By procrastinating my workouts, I was delaying my happiness and my ability to feel good today.

What I mean by this, I felt guilty putting myself first because of all of my obligations and commitments to other people and projects. Have you ever done this or felt this way? I know I can’t be the only one out there!!!???

Since I start adjusting my mindset this past week and taking baby steps, so when I caught myself having a panic or freak out when it was time to go exercise, I gently told myself that I was going to feel much better after and that I would only go for 25 min.  I also told myself that I don’t have to do anything, that I choose to do this because it makes me feel good.

I did and Let me tell you, I’ve gotten so much done, I feel amazing. How often do we sacrifice our own health and fitness because of tasks, time, or relationships?

Instead of waiting until Monday to get back on track, focus on getting on track and feeling good TODAY. “I deserve to feel good today.”  “I deserve to feel my best today.”  If I waited until Monday all I would be doing, is delaying my happiness and robbing myself of feeling good for another day. Why?!?!

 

Take Action Today:

1. Choose a time throughout your day that you can commit to exercise.
2. Now in your calendar, write your name down and block that time off for yourself. The time can be 10 min or it can be 60 min. Whatever feels right for your. Start with a small commitment and then workout your way up.
3. What you fill in there is your choice! You can dance, play ping pong, go rollerblading or bike riding with someone, strength train at the gym… whatever you wanna do, as long as it makes you feel good:)

P.S. If you need some more help check out the Kick-Start Program HERE.

Take action today and Let us know how it goes!

Much love & gratitude,

And remember to Look, Feel & Be Your Best Today!

Tanya

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3 Action Steps to Break a Bad Eating Habit Today! (Gabrielle Bernstein)

In lesson 29 from the book Miracles Now, it states, “You are not your habits!”

One of the main reasons we may stay stuck in an undesired habit we know doesn’t serve us is because of our permission-giving-thoughts (Click Here)
Throughout my adult life, I’ve given up many bad habits. Most recently, I’ve given up grazing (aka mindless / careless eating) and b/c it wasn’t killing me I continued to give myself “permission” to graze whenever I felt an uncomfortable emotion.

In many cases we use our bad habits as dealing with something much more difficult. I was using grazing/mindless eating as a final vice to unintentionally self sabotage. On a subconscious level, grazing is what felt safe because it’s the only tool I’ve ever known that’s always worked and made me feel good whenever I felt anxious, overwhelmed, frustrated, panicky, guilty, exhausted, bored, or any other uncomfortable emotion. In reality, the only way this bad habit ever served me was by keeping me at a stand still, and kept me feeling stuck like I was never making progress with my own transformation. On the other hand, what I’ve discovered to realize is that it was a protective mechanism that kept me safe..so I subconsciously thought.

Bad habits are learned behaviors that we use as a tools to numb, suppress and/or delay feelings.

As a recovered food addict/ binge eater, I would justify how grazing was harmless and had no effect on my progress what-so-ever. “Hey, I’m not binging, I’m just tasting.” or “It’s not gonna hurt me if I eat a couple pieces of dried papaya and nuts.” But the ultimate reality is, if you deeply desire to rock out your best self, I’m talking about look, feel and be your absolute best, then we have to get rid of these “permission-giving-thoughts!” because they do not serve you, and if you have these thoughts everyday, perhaps even several times a day, it adds up and keeps you stuck.

And don’t get me wrong, grazing was definitely a stepping stone towards overcoming the hard core stuff. It did serve me when I felt I needed something I could count on to turn to whenever I felt an uncomfortable emotion (unsafe).

But guess what, I am no long that person and what I’ve realized is this bad habit of grazing or mindless eating no longer serves me. I now am fortunate and blessed to have new tools readily available when dealing with uncomfortable emotions.

 

Transitioning out of a bad habit can be really uncomfortable at first.
3 steps that Gabrielle Bernstein reviews in her miracles now book from lesson 29:

1. keep it in the day. One of the main reasons we get tripped up when we try to change a habit is because we start future tripping. What helps me during a future trip out is…keep it in today.

Here’s what I tell myself: “Today I choose to be mindful, connected and feel my best. Today I choose to feel my best. I choose to feel good now. I always ask myself, How can I feel good today, now?”

2. change your breath pattern.

By changing your breath pattern you change your energy and therefore change your experience. Inhale for a count of 4 , pause, then exhale for a count of 4. Do this for 1 minute and notice how you feel?
Whenever u notice yourself about to relapse into your negative behavior, take a long deep breath. As you change your breath, you change your energy. Your calm centered energy with support you in positive behavior and stop you from indulging in your bad habit. – Gabby

3. make it fun! Letting go of a negative habit doesn’t have to be boring, in fact, it can be exciting! It’s an easier process when we find fun and curiosity in our new circumstances. Instead of dwelling on giving something up, fall in love with something new!

 

*Key to Success: You have to get real with yourself. Be honest. Take responsibility and then Take Action.
Give yourself permission to feel good, to succeed and move forward. Let go of whatever is not serving you and substitute it with something that will. Give it a try for the next 21 days and let us know what happens! :)

Most importantly, Give yourself permission to Look, Feel & Be Your Best Today!

TanyaSilva.com

 

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